FRIEND

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s the cock crow and the sun brass across my roof, then I knew it is time to open a new page. However, I was too lazy to help myself out of the bed as my favourite radio station played a lovely song by Michael Bolton, the title is “Lean On Me”. I love the song, not just because the rhythm was well composed to inspire one for the day’s task but because the lyrics were waxed to tell every listener the worth of a friend. This is however what informed the Pen Club stinting topic last week and here is what our members wrote about a friend.

To some a friend is someone you can lean on, count on, believe in, and share your dreams, thoughts, hopes and prayers with. Someone you feel safe with, someone you can trust with your secrets, someone you can go the extra mile with, someone you enjoys his/her company or like his behaviour. He/she is one who is generous, faithful, caring and God fearing.

Some maintained that a friend accepts you as you are, makes no demand to exploit you. Take you as you are without cloning or duplicating you to fit into his/her copy. He/she is one who doesn’t feel irritated or disappointed with you for seeming waywardness. Someone who loves you naturally, not because you are rich or poor, beautiful or ugly, gallant or cool, nice or wicked, brilliant or dull, but because he/she feels comfortable with you personality.

It is in the same vein that others wrote that a friend is one who is God fearing, honest, faithful, sincere and who doesn’t wear different characters as occasion demands. A friend is one who prays for and with you, on who always stand by to lend a helping hand. He laughs with you in your happy times, and share your sorrow with you. He is not one who stab you in the back and come back to apologize again and again, not one who speaks well about you in your presence and disdainfully gossips you when you turn your back. He/she is not one who always lead you to trouble or confusion. Your friend does not exploit you, the best of friends are always striving to earnestly and honestly contribute their quota in seeing that they attain the height they have always crave for.

It is on this note that I conclude that we all need a friend, no matter how hard we try to deny it. No one can be an island; we need others to be fulfilled since life may never be complete living independently. Albelt Schweitzer said “sometimes, our light goes out but is blown by another human being. Each of us owes deepest thanks to those who have rekindled the light.” However, the message here is to be careful in choosing your friend as your success in life depends on the type of association you have. Positive friends add colour to our lives and give us cause to b thankful to God for their present in our lives.